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I Am Not A Victim Of Mind Chatter. I Live In The Present

There are 3 rules to living fully.

1. Forgive
2. Realise “you are enough”
3. Be present

Being present means not dwelling on the past or future. Take each moment as it comes. Each moment is special. Each moment is worth your full attention.

We can often miss out on life’s great experiences because we are lost in our own minds thinking about things that may happen in the future or things we regret from the past.

As you start each day, be grateful for things in your life. Think about moments or things you are grateful for in the last 24 hours, the last week, or the last month. If you find yourself not being able to come up with anything, then it’s likely you have been too lost in your mind to appreciate moments as they happen.

– Time with your family
– Seeing your loved ones smile
– Taking a walk on the beach
– Breathing in the sea air
– Feeling intense love or connection with your partner
– Reading a new book
– Spending time with your friends
– Feeling value within yourself

There are a lot of things to feel grateful for when you stop and appreciate each moment. Our lives are not meant to be stressful. Our lives should be full of joy and positivity.

It’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind and think about what we are working for in the future, but it’s important to stop and notice life happening while you are in it.

Life changes. Things don’t always go to plan. Sometimes the future you are striving so hard for doesn’t pan out the way you expect. Realise these possibilities and make sure you are enjoying the journey as it happens.

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Life Lesson: Surrender Is More Powerful Than Control

This is such a seemingly simple phrase which can be taken so lightly but has so much potential to change your life. “Surrender is more powerful than control.”

My revelation of this came to me after exploring forgiveness, seeking direction for my life, and trying to figure out who I am and what I am on this earth for. It’s one of those things that seems obvious to everyone around you because they can judge you externally but if someone said that phrase to me twelve months ago, I wouldn’t have really grasped it’s meaning or paid much attention to it.

It’s only when you are seeking that you can truly embrace a new idea. It’s only then that you find revelation in something so simple. “Those who seek, shall find.” Read more

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Why Bother With Positive Affirmations?

The thoughts you hold in your subconscious mind can significantly influence your success in life. Most of us have grown up in the world of negativity. We have received negative teachings about things in life from our friends, our relatives, and even from the media. Some of these negatives beliefs, for example, are like money is the cause of all evil, you lose your friends when you become rich e.t.c. These and other beliefs towards life prevent us you from attracting great things into our life. The good thing is that all these ideas can be modified.

An old man once asked this intriguing question. “If I start saying positive stuff to myself, won’t that make me delusional, particularly when I don’t think of them being true?” Now, do you think that this is interesting? Many of us tell things to ourselves or about ourselves continuously. For example, you may say, “I am stupid!” “I am always Clumsy!” “I always make stupid decisions!” And we tell ourselves these things so often until we start accepting them as FACTs. In reality, these are deceptions that we tell to ourselves. However, even if you know something is untrue, and continue repeating it to yourself more often. Eventually, you’ll start believing that it is true. This notion is particularly the case when a lot of emotion is fed into these thoughts as the case when we speak negative things to ourselves. Something that you don’t know, a negative self-talk comes in combination with a feeling of frustration, anger, resentment humiliation, etc. And often, it amounts to depression. All these emotions allow the self-talk to infiltrate the subconscious mind and they are hard to change.

According to Sherman & Cohen, (2006), “Many of these psychological adaptations can be thought of as defensive in nature, insofar as they alter the meaning of the event in a way that shields people from the conclusion that their beliefs or actions were misguided”( p.4.) Reciting these opinions over and over again is similar to seasoning meat. Think about rubbing seasoning toward a piece of meat and possibly even causing small incisions to help the seasoning penetrate farther into the flesh, as you impart flavor. However, your herbs and spices are bitter and pungent that when you taste the ready meat, it is not delicious.

The Benefits of Daily Affirmation

· You start becoming aware of your everyday words and thoughts hence decreasing the risk of letting in negative thoughts.

· You start getting more motivated in your life.

· Your life starts to get surrounded by things that are beneficial to you hence bringing more gifts and blessings.

· A daily practice contributes to keeping the small things track of smalls things and keeping them in perspective, and appreciate them.

· Positive affirmation boosts your health.

· Positive affirmation makes you keep focused on things that can help you.

· Writing positive affirmations help you remain in a perpetual state of gratitude.

· If you are going to replace the negative self-talk with positive affirmations on a daily basis and utilising positive affirmations more often, you will begin the progressive process of the re-conditioning the subconscious part of your brain.

Conclusion.

The recovery work will take time, a lot of patience, and attention to detail. Once accomplished, it will not only produce enormous satisfaction to you, but it will also bring benefits to your life. So, persevere with your positive affirmations and finally they will get deep-rooted into the sub-conscious mind. The reward will be an improved self-image plus an abundant life.

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How To Be Decisive When Your Emotions Are Taking Over

We all face this problem at some point in our lives, especially in relationships. When emotions are involved it makes it hard to think clearly and make decisions. Here are a few tips to help you come up with the right decision.

  1. Think about what your friends would suggest you do from their third person perspective.

    By putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes, we can start to think objectively about our situation and take the emotion out. What would your friends advise you to do in your situation? If you want to think about it slightly differently, what would you advise your friends if they were in a similar situation to you?

  2. Weigh up the pros and cons

    It will help you to physically write down the pros and cons of your decision to visually asses your options. This way you are reducing the stress on your brain trying to juggle everything all at once.

  3. Think about the consequences of each decision

    There is always consequences for every decision we make. This is about minimising risk. It’s important to recognise that we are going to make some mistakes in our lives and we shouldn’t be fearful of that. By thinking about the consequences of each decision you may see an option that reduces your potential risk and lets you take the next step.

  4. Stick to your guns

    Trust your instinct. Usually your first thought is the right one. Once you make the decision, stick to it. Back yourself. Try doing some light meditation to calm your mind and help you listen to your inner voice.

These are just a few tips you can use to help you make a logical and proactive decision when you feel your emotions are holding you captive.

Remember, these decisions are difficult for everybody as you have a lot of emotions to deal with not just in yourself, but possibly from someone else or numerous people. Follow these simple steps to help you move forward and make a decision that is right for you.

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How To Change Your Reality By Identifying Your Thought Patterns

What happens to us in life is not what is “happening to us” at all. There is no point blaming or pointing the finger at someone or something else for our misfortunes.

We have the ability as highly potential beings to create the most wonderful experiences for ourselves in our lifetime, or alternatively fill our lives with strife and hardship.

It’s not simply a matter of positive affirmations or trying to reduce negative emotions by focusing on the good things in our life. There is more to it.

We do actually have the power to change reality. By understanding and exploring our inner beliefs, emotions, and reactions to situations we can learn to understand how we are perceiving reality and make changes to impact our world.

To start with, think about the concept of “There is no good or bad”, there simply “is”. Our definition of what is good or bad is our perception formed by our inner beliefs and programming. A belief is something told to us that we accepted.

If you are feeling like your life is boring or unfulfilling, could you imagine how much your life would change if you decided to uproot yourself tomorrow and go live in a different country. Would that change your belief?

It would definitely change your situation, but possibly not your inner belief that your life is boring. What you need to do is identify the underlying thought pattern that makes you believe your life is boring. This is called “mindfulness”. Practicing mindfulness arms you with the tools to hunt your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. It allows you to become more aware of your inner beliefs.

As you take notice and observe these thoughts and notice how the mind uses your thoughts to generate beliefs, you will be able to determine which beliefs are genuine and which aren’t. You are no longer living on auto-pilot as a prisoner to your own mind. You will literally be able to change the way you think through consistent mindfulness practice.

What can you do today to change your reality?

The first thing is to listen to yourself.

“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.” -Louise L. Hay

To identify your beliefs and thought patterns, try to observe your reactions to situations when they happen as if you were someone else simply standing nearby. Specifically identify your speech and the specific words you use. What you speak is a correlation to what you think.

Think of yourself as having a front and back cover. The front is what we portray to others and the outside world. The back cover is what we really think about ourselves. The aim here is to find out more about our back cover. What do we really think about ourselves?

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