Social anxiety can be crippling for many people. By definition we all have it to some degree. As humans we have a need to interact with others and feel approval by those around us. It becomes a problem when we inhibit our own personal growth becoming anxious over what others think.
If you find yourself trying too hard to please others or feel the need to have everybody like you, then here are a few tips to help.
1. The first one is realising that you can’t please everybody. Not everybody is going to like you. Now, I know that statement likely causes you to be anxious just reading it. What you need to do is come to a place of acceptance. Only by accepting you are perfect in yourself and there is only one person in this world qualified to be you, can you truly embrace the idea that you don’t need everybody to like you.
2. The second tip is to take time out everyday to meditate. Come to a place of peace within yourself. Try breathing in a circular motion, so don’t pause at the end of your inhale and exhale. Keep your breathing constant. Take deep comfortable breaths and don’t pause. The idea here is to listen to yourself. Get in touch with your most inner being and inner thoughts. You know the answers to your questions. It’s just a matter of quietening your mind to really hear what you need.
3. The third tip is to realise that you don’t need external validation or other people to tell you what you should do. What that will do is only give you more opinions to confuse you. Social anxiety naturally will have you asking people their opinion on the problems you face so you can feel validated. There is no right choice, only the right choice for you, and only you are qualified to make that choice. There is always a place for running ideas past people but if you are constantly seeking others approval for your life choices then you are not going to get anywhere.
Those 3 tips will help if you have social anxiety. Try practising meditation everyday for 20 minutes. If you can’t do that long at first, then start smaller and build up. The first time you try it, your mind will likely be everywhere and you will have trouble sitting still. Bear with it and give it a chance. Persistence is key. You will master your social anxiety and find inner peace to make the decisions that are right for you.
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