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The Top 5 Mantras To Instantly Boost Your Positivity And Get You Out Of That Rut

Looking for a dose of positivity to lift you from the rut that is your day-to-day grind?

You’re not alone. We all get stuck sometimes and need motivation to get us from whatever hole we may be in at a particular time.

A mantra is a phrase or word that triggers transformation. The main purpose of a mantra is to evoke the enlightenment state and release you from your illusions.

Here’s what mantras do:

  • Help you take charge of your mind, especially during meditation.
  • Help you to get into or focus on the right state of mind.
  • Use visualisation to reach the desired effect.
  • Rouse auto-suggestions to your subconscious.

If you feel like something is holding you back from reaching the next level, use these five mantras to motivate you. Simply repeat these mantras in your head as you
meditate or as you work out.

1. “I am resilient.”

This mantra is especially powerful when you are going through a particularly hard time. Whether it is a breakup, job loss, or a cash crunch, this mantra helps to push
you to persist.

You have overcome a lot of things in life; you can surely overcome your current situation. That’s basically what this mantra is about; to convince yourself that you have the resilience to bounce back from whatever situation that put you down.

2. “If its not challenging enough, it will not change me.”

If any experience in life is comfortable for you, it will never change you. Most good things are born out of extremely challenging (and sometimes painful) circumstances. This is the story of many successful people the world over.

When you feel challenged, down, and almost out, that might be a good sign that you need to make a change. You need to face the next challenge. You need to muster the courage to experience pain or discomfort before you can move to something bigger, somewhere better.

3. “I will never know how far I can go unless I try.”

One of the most powerful motivational mantras ever. If you had to choose one and only one mantra to get you out of your rut, this would be it. It is plain, simple, and straightforward yet extremely powerful.

You need to take that leap today, to put yourself out there and see what’s waiting for you on the other side. Without taking the first step, you will never know. Take
that step today.

4. “If opportunity doesn’t knock, I will build a door.”

If you’re always waiting for opportunities to come your way, you might forever remain stuck. Sometimes it’s up to you to shape your own future. Not your dad. Not your mum. Not your friends. And certainly not your girlfriend or boyfriend.

5. “Yes I Can.”

This mantra supposedly got a person elected as president, so now you know its power. On a serious note, “yes you can” can work like a switch. It can flip a negative moment into a positive, hopeful one in an instant. Just repeat to yourself “yes you can” and then your brain and body will quickly oblige.

Wrapping Up

These powerful phrases should help you make a change and snap out of that rut today. Stick to one or two that really fire you up. Now you have the power to get you to the next level.

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Things you Should Not Do After a Breakup

Picture this, your ex has parted ways with you. He or She has just told you the three popular words “It Is Over” , to exacerbate it she has moved on! To be honest, this is one of the most alarming circumstances to be in as a man or woman.

Obviously, as time ticks by you start to acknowledge that your ex meant the world to you. How enamored with her you truly were. In this way, one day you choose to take a risk, to get your ex back. You figure the most effortless approach to this is to send her a “can-we-talk” text-message to determine whether she has the same feelings for you. In this way, you do it. You haul out your telephone, sort in a sweet SMS, send it to her and you end up getting such a reply. ” Hi, too bad I am dating another person and I am so happy with him!

Phew! Should you decide to overlook that? Or will you persist to get your girlfriend back?

There are some deadly mistakes that people make after a relationship breakup. Based on your past experiences, you will try to use everything to try to get your ex to stay. Begging, stalking, smothering them with
affection, jealousy and sometimes even anger and abuse. The reason why most people make these mistakes is because in their mind, pleading, begging and being desperate seem like the most logical thing to do.

Things you Should Not Do After a Breakup

After a relationship breakup there are certain things that you should totally refrain from doing. They will rip off your dignity. Some items on
the agenda are quite obvious:-

  • Don’t wallow in self pity,
  • Don’t drunk dial your ex,
  • Don’t try to make people feel sorry for you that you are wallowing in self-pity and drunk-dialed your ex.
  • Don’t smother your ex with too much affection.

 

Why Smothering is Potentially Harmful after A Break up

Smothering your ex after a relationship breakup, and showering her with overrated displays of affection through myriads of emails and text messages will not be effective. It will only make matters worse. At this point, your ex knows how you feel; it would be great now to give her a break to figure out how she feels. Your ex needs to complete the assessment going on at her end before she makes her mind on the next move. She’s judging how you handle the time apart. Use the time apart to work on yourself, mentally and physically. Go through the motions of moving on, even if you still hold hopes of reconnecting. Let her wonder what you’re doing without her and whether you’re dating someone else.

What You Should Do to Win Your Ex Back

You have refrained from all the above elements, time has lapsed and you feel its the right time to have that talk. What should you do?

1.Attempt to fix what turned out badly

After your ex has had some breathing space, you can now think of how you can mend the relationship. Connections frequently end in a hurricane of uncertainty and sharp allegation. You most likely said a couple of things you didn’t mean, and she battled back. Since you’ve had a tiny bit of time to consider what’s been lost, you know you need her back. On the off chance that you put your heart and brain to it, you’ll have the capacity to win her over once more. Altering whatever turned out badly in any case can be all it takes to demonstrate that you’ve changed.

2.Tell your ex sorry

Whether you said a final farewell to her, or she parted ways with you, a conciliatory sentiment is quite often all together. A statement of regret demonstrates her that you’re equipped for gulping your ego, and that you mind enough to advise her you weren’t right. Set a period to meet in an open spot, or a place that you know she’ll feel great. At the point when the timing is right, say: “I know I committed a few errors, and I needed to assume full responsibility. I shouldn’t have done [whatever it is you did] to you, and I feel horrendous at this point. Yet, the greatest oversight I made was losing you. I don’t expect anything from you, I simply need you to realize that.” This way you are deemed to win your ex back.

What if your Ex Slaps your Apology?

If the worst happens, and your ex says she doesn’t love you anymore, don’t try to convince her to love you with rational reasons. Don’t smother her with details of why you’re perfect for her. Don’t peddle your love to her. Maintain your dignity. Simply walk away and save yourself the embarrassment. Not every love is meant to last forever. If you’ve done your best, and communicated your feelings, it’s time to move on.

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The 5 Stages of Grieving – Divorce and Cheating

It’s important to remember that the “5 stages of grieving” aren’t a linear set of steps that each person will go through. You may experience many stages or emotions at once and in various order.

These stages were originally identified by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book On Death and Dying. Although they were identified through people dealing with the death of someone close to them, they are still relevant to people dealing with the loss of their partner through divorce or breakup. Even though they haven’t died, the loss is still just as painful. Read more