What happens to us in life is not what is “happening to us” at all. There is no point blaming or pointing the finger at someone or something else for our misfortunes.
We have the ability as highly potential beings to create the most wonderful experiences for ourselves in our lifetime, or alternatively fill our lives with strife and hardship.
It’s not simply a matter of positive affirmations or trying to reduce negative emotions by focusing on the good things in our life. There is more to it.
We do actually have the power to change reality. By understanding and exploring our inner beliefs, emotions, and reactions to situations we can learn to understand how we are perceiving reality and make changes to impact our world.
To start with, think about the concept of “There is no good or bad”, there simply “is”. Our definition of what is good or bad is our perception formed by our inner beliefs and programming. A belief is something told to us that we accepted.
If you are feeling like your life is boring or unfulfilling, could you imagine how much your life would change if you decided to uproot yourself tomorrow and go live in a different country. Would that change your belief?
It would definitely change your situation, but possibly not your inner belief that your life is boring. What you need to do is identify the underlying thought pattern that makes you believe your life is boring. This is called “mindfulness”. Practicing mindfulness arms you with the tools to hunt your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. It allows you to become more aware of your inner beliefs.
As you take notice and observe these thoughts and notice how the mind uses your thoughts to generate beliefs, you will be able to determine which beliefs are genuine and which aren’t. You are no longer living on auto-pilot as a prisoner to your own mind. You will literally be able to change the way you think through consistent mindfulness practice.
What can you do today to change your reality?
The first thing is to listen to yourself.
“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.” -Louise L. Hay
To identify your beliefs and thought patterns, try to observe your reactions to situations when they happen as if you were someone else simply standing nearby. Specifically identify your speech and the specific words you use. What you speak is a correlation to what you think.
Think of yourself as having a front and back cover. The front is what we portray to others and the outside world. The back cover is what we really think about ourselves. The aim here is to find out more about our back cover. What do we really think about ourselves?